I Don’t Care If You Are Not Offended, That Is Still Racist.
Here is a thing that pisses me the fck off often… the phrase “I was not offended, so I don’t think that was racist”.. I mean… Since when does racism have to personally offend you for it to be officially raicist? Fck you…. that sht is racist whether you are insulted or not.
This goes for any subject as well, be it homophobia, be it transphobia, be it orientalism, or be it sexism… just because you are not personally insulted does not mean that you can therefore rationally conclude weather or not something is bigoted. That is the fcking stupidest way to go around looking to spot bigotry, and I am fcking tired of seeing it.. especially tired of seeing it from fellow minorities.
That phrase is especially damaging, as a result of tokenism, if you are a member of a minority group and you take it upon yourself to pronounce that, because you are not personally offended, therefore all minorities who are, might be are overreacting or irrational. People are way too comfortable sending out this random minority to say “I was not offended by that.. thus it can’t be bigoted!”.. that sht is extra fcking annoying dogg!
Let me lay it out for peoples… no I am sorry, you should not go around using your “spidey sense” on whether or not you are personally offended by something, and then irrationally come to the conclusion that therefore, based on your tastes, that it can not be connected to some form of modern bigotry. That is the wackest way to go about things…
You know there is something called… internalization, right? Where because we live in a very fcked up bigoted society, that everyone internalized bigotries – just in different ways. For the privileged, they start thinking in stereotypes. For minorities, they more or less almost become numb to the stereotypes blasted at them.
I will give you an easy example… in america, Mexicans are a pretty sizable group in the Latino population… now everyday I was always asked if I am Mexican, as if Mexico is the only Latin American country. That sht is racist as fck. However, am I personally offended by it these days? Nah.. to be real, that sht do not even register on my “offended radar.” I am not offended at all, but does that make it any less racist?.. nah, that is still racist. That racism might make a different Latino get offended, but not me, everyone has different levels of sensitivity.
The same goes for many issues of sexism. Men and women internalize a lot of sexist sht… and often times it is the people who are most exposed to sexism the most that internalize the most sexism. Think of it this way…. say you are a business woman, and you waited tables for a night. Then some guy slaps you on the butt as you walk by. This is textbook sexual objectification and it is sexist. Of course the woman, not used to being sexually assaulted in public, is going to be outraged about it. Yet, how about the woman who has a lifetime of waiting tables in a dive bar? Well she has probably been assaulted like that on the regular, if not subjected to even worse assault. As such, as a defense mechanism, this woman has learned to cope with such aggression.. and when she gets smacked on the rear, she does not lose her sht like the first might. She may not even be offended at all!
Now look here, we have two plausible sets of women with different sensibilities.. and as such identical events spark a different reaction – not everyone in a minority group is going to be offended by the same thing. Yet does this at all impact our conclusion that such actions are in fact sexist? It does not. What it shows us, is that we can conclude something is sexist quite independently of individual offenses.
By those two analogies alone, we can see that going off of personal offense is not really a solid way to rationally conclude if something is or is not bigoted. Instead we have to use a different set of criteria to settle if something is or is not bigoted. In order to do this, we are going to understand whatever framework we are working under. For racism, we are working under a white supremacist framework; for sexism, we are working under a patriarchy framework, for gays and trans people we are working under a hetero-normative framework…etc…
We have to use those frameworks – each framework as specific definitions set under years of theorizing and scientific work – to help us identify whether or not some action or ideal works to propagate certain bigoted norms. Constantly keeping in mind that, because we live in a bigoted society that tolerates such ideologies…. sometimes we are going to internalize these ideologies ourselves and not be able to spot them in action, let alone be offended by them when they are presented to us.
Now, let us not get this sht twisted… I am not saying that minorities should not use their finely tuned senses to detect whether or not something functioning in a bigoted way – most of the time our offenses alone are in fact quite accurate, even if we lack the logical framework to connect the dots. However, I am saying that we can not and should not rely on offense alone to dictate whether something can be categorized as bigoted. What we should do instead is allow our finely tunes noses to point us in the right direction and then search for the framework that proves those senses right. Solely going off of the “spidey sense” alone is a recipe for disaster because, as we have shown, everyone internalizes bigotries in different ways and thus have different sensibilities when it comes to their interactions with said bigotries.
Not every minority is going to be just as offended by some particular incident, and that is why we must lay a rational foundation for objecting to bigoted behavior. thankfully most of us do that already, but there a few out there who are still new to this sht.. that make this very common and silly mistake. In fact, it is only by exploring these frameworks rationally and educating ourselves that we begin to develop highly accurate noses. It is then that begin to see the cultural interactions with bigoted ideologies where we may have never noticed them before.